While writing King’s story, I wondered why there’s an expectation that people will eventually come out. In my middle-grade novel, King and the Dragonflies, the main character King decides that he doesn’t want to come out to everyone, either-only to the people he trusts and feels safe with the most. I write for primarily children and teens. The Intricacies of Coming Out as Bisexual.Noelle Stevenson Shares Her Coming Out Story.Over the years, I spoke openly about my identities on social media and in interviews, wanting to create more visible representation for Black, queer, and transgender and/or nonbinary readers-but some family members inevitably found my interviews and asked questions: “What do they/them pronouns mean? What does it mean to be nonbinary?” Many showed their love and warm acceptance, but thinking back on this now, I realize that they found out about my identities. I didn’t know how they would react to my identities, especially when many people in my family have made anti-queer and anti-trans statements in the past. I told one family member that I’m queer, trans, and nonbinary, but I didn’t want to tell anyone else. I didn’t come out-not to everyone, anyway.
A person can be honest about their truth and their identity with themselves, without ever needing to tell anyone else." As Callender so eloquently puts it, "celebration and self-love can be quiet, internal, without saying a word to the world.
Whether one does so publicly or privately is up to the individual. But Callender suggests that we should instead put more pressure on all people-particularly those who are straight or cisgendered-to create a space that's safer to do so, especially for people of color, who are more vulnerable to violence.Ĭoming out should, first and foremost, be a celebration of the self. We put a lot of pressure on queer and trans people to tell us who they really are.
0 kommentar(er)
